Well Christmas is 6 Sleeps away and this year it is really "beginning to feel a lot like Christmas" it seems that now as we have been a family for 3 years, it is all fitting together and the first Christmas is truely beginning.
Whilst in the first year we as parents were so keen to give them the best ever Christmas, on reflection - WOW what a traumatic time it must have been for them, so many changes and experiences for us as Adults to experience you forget how they must of felt at the time. Furniture being moved around to fit a big outdoor object - the Christmas Tree in and the decorations up, different foods, games, routines things were certainly hectic.
But now we have more choreographed events, Tree, - ["Not as big as last year mum - on that one the fairy touched the ceiling!"], we have a countdown sleep board, and a un chocolaty advent calendar, not traditional but we are learning all the names of the reindeer.
We have been to see Father Christmas without screaming and being petrified of the Big Red Man! we took our presents and saving them to open on Christmas Day. So proud of them not to just rip the paper off and look where the next present would come from or "she/he got a better present than me".
Life is chilled, apart from all the other normal routine whines and groans getting to and from School, bed, shopping! - we look like we are heading for a lovely Christmas to remember.
Wednesday, 19 December 2012
Monday, 12 November 2012
What is the rhythm of your family?
So it is absolutely yonks since I lasted posted and views on my page have been steady without me even writing anything! But the needs must or I actually have a few minutes to write something again!
Life has been very busy for us in our family what with holidays, school, new activities and finding our rhythm as a family, because that's what it is all about - What beat your family moves to.
As a family that has come together through Adoption, we were encouraged at our preparation classes to understand that life will never be simply again! tThat here is now more than just you and your partner, a family that has to fit together and work together. I have found this out more so in the last 12 months due to my employment situation and yes it does affect everyone.
If your circumstances change don't expect your children to carry on their normal routine - they ask questions, they show emotions and they need support and reassurance just as you do too.
But it has not all been doom and gloom, I remembered that we had a roller skating rink quite close to us so one wet Sunday afternoon DS and I ventured out to meet his friend at the local roller skating rink - WOW I must say it was a whole new experience, I had been once decades ago! but had forgotten the thrills, bumps and aching legs that you experience! There was a great DJ playing up to date music and I turned around and DS had disappeared off the learners rink and I found him off on the big rink with his support aid!
We went back the following week with DD and found 3 hours had whizzed by and I had two confident kids on the big rink! Think I know what might be in Father Christmas's letter this year - 3 pairs of roller skates - WELL YES I found it fun too!!
Life has been very busy for us in our family what with holidays, school, new activities and finding our rhythm as a family, because that's what it is all about - What beat your family moves to.
As a family that has come together through Adoption, we were encouraged at our preparation classes to understand that life will never be simply again! tThat here is now more than just you and your partner, a family that has to fit together and work together. I have found this out more so in the last 12 months due to my employment situation and yes it does affect everyone.
If your circumstances change don't expect your children to carry on their normal routine - they ask questions, they show emotions and they need support and reassurance just as you do too.
But it has not all been doom and gloom, I remembered that we had a roller skating rink quite close to us so one wet Sunday afternoon DS and I ventured out to meet his friend at the local roller skating rink - WOW I must say it was a whole new experience, I had been once decades ago! but had forgotten the thrills, bumps and aching legs that you experience! There was a great DJ playing up to date music and I turned around and DS had disappeared off the learners rink and I found him off on the big rink with his support aid!
We went back the following week with DD and found 3 hours had whizzed by and I had two confident kids on the big rink! Think I know what might be in Father Christmas's letter this year - 3 pairs of roller skates - WELL YES I found it fun too!!
Tuesday, 31 January 2012
Well, well well - I'm back!
So all 17 of my followers have you been wondering where I have been for the past 6 months? "No" you cry not really, well I'll tell you anyway. I have been on a journey of discovery! Discovering what it is really like to live & work in my town and village.
Some of you may have heard of my nearest town Wisbech, Cambridgeshire, UK. It firstly does have great historic reference to the Georgian era and has strong links to the Quaker families of Octavia Hill [social reformer and founder of the National Trust] and the Peckover family. But it also has some very grey areas of deprivation including, social dreprivation, teenage pregancy - which is getting better, and like all other areas of the UK lack of jobs.
So when I found myself redundant nearly 12 months ago, because of my choices my search for employment needed to be local, fit in with the children, part-time? and to be of interest to me! well quite really a BIG Challenge.
I did find one - working in a local surgery - hours didnt really suit, was part-time but found myself doing two jobs, local 20 mins drive on a good day! Interesting to me - well eerrr no not from one who faints going to have their eyes tested no not at all!
But I percevered and was there to help the sick, frustrated, angry, psychotic and the down right rude. A few nice ones in between and the very sad cases of those who only wanted to be listened to, comforted and told that it was alright, "don't worry if you have forgotten your date of birth, your address or your name, I am here to help you."
But after 6 months of shouting at the kids that they needed to get a move on in the morning, otherwise mummy would be in trouble if she was late - YES told off and in deep trouble if two minutes late!!! or just the sheer manner of being spoken to by some - I had had enough. The question as to was I actually earning anything - putting the kids in before and after school clubs gave me my answer. NO I was spending too much time trying to all the right things but not having enough time for us!
So four weeks ago I handed my notice - chickened out of the real reason so just said - with regret, I am resigning! was I really regretting? I was brought up to do, say and write the right thing!
so I have had two days holiday owning to me, and after the first day of jumping round the house for joy the second day I have decided to put fingers to keyboard and say hello to the electronic world again!
Oh how I have missed you!
Some of you may have heard of my nearest town Wisbech, Cambridgeshire, UK. It firstly does have great historic reference to the Georgian era and has strong links to the Quaker families of Octavia Hill [social reformer and founder of the National Trust] and the Peckover family. But it also has some very grey areas of deprivation including, social dreprivation, teenage pregancy - which is getting better, and like all other areas of the UK lack of jobs.
So when I found myself redundant nearly 12 months ago, because of my choices my search for employment needed to be local, fit in with the children, part-time? and to be of interest to me! well quite really a BIG Challenge.
I did find one - working in a local surgery - hours didnt really suit, was part-time but found myself doing two jobs, local 20 mins drive on a good day! Interesting to me - well eerrr no not from one who faints going to have their eyes tested no not at all!
But I percevered and was there to help the sick, frustrated, angry, psychotic and the down right rude. A few nice ones in between and the very sad cases of those who only wanted to be listened to, comforted and told that it was alright, "don't worry if you have forgotten your date of birth, your address or your name, I am here to help you."
But after 6 months of shouting at the kids that they needed to get a move on in the morning, otherwise mummy would be in trouble if she was late - YES told off and in deep trouble if two minutes late!!! or just the sheer manner of being spoken to by some - I had had enough. The question as to was I actually earning anything - putting the kids in before and after school clubs gave me my answer. NO I was spending too much time trying to all the right things but not having enough time for us!
So four weeks ago I handed my notice - chickened out of the real reason so just said - with regret, I am resigning! was I really regretting? I was brought up to do, say and write the right thing!
so I have had two days holiday owning to me, and after the first day of jumping round the house for joy the second day I have decided to put fingers to keyboard and say hello to the electronic world again!
Oh how I have missed you!
Monday, 8 August 2011
Our Village - it's a Dog Poo Area
Well every month we have a great village magazine posted through our doors, it is always very informative on village goings on and I have had a few mentions and added a few bits which is always a great feeling. The editor is now looking for more input from villagers which he may find a few more coming his way from me!
However the fairly new addition of "Letters Page" has bought with it a flurry of to's and fro's regarding the amount of Dog Poo in the Village it does seem to be a subject close to many in urban or rural areas.
Now I have to say that whilst everyone of course in entitled to have their point of view. Some of the views are either a bit close to the mark, a rant or in some cases well thought out. Yes I do have a dog well one and a half as now our new family addition of 10 weeks Basil the Border Terrier has arrived! and so I like to think I have a very good ethos of picking their business up. I am also paranoid about them getting out and if they seem to make a nuisance of themselves - not only would I be totally embarrassed I do not want to be known as the or that lady who can't control her dogs or her kids.
Ok I have to put my hand up twice Poppy the BT has followed me out of the house unbeknown to me and it's not until about 30 mins later I have asked "has anyone seen Poppydog?" as I frantically turn the house upside down that I hear a single bark at the front door and there she is patiently waiting for me. I would just die if someone saw her and whipped her away as she was is my first baby. Yes I do have 2 cats and have had 6 in total but the 2 I have now - one is completely in charge of us all and the other one is a neurotic torty - if you have one - you know what I am talking about.
But back to the Dog Poo! there are two types of people in the world those that care and those that don't and those that don't will never change and maybe I do agree with the person who wrote in our magazine that they shouldn't be allowed to keep dogs but how do you make them pick up ? I welcome all suggestions and then I can write a constructive article for my Village magazine.
However the fairly new addition of "Letters Page" has bought with it a flurry of to's and fro's regarding the amount of Dog Poo in the Village it does seem to be a subject close to many in urban or rural areas.
Now I have to say that whilst everyone of course in entitled to have their point of view. Some of the views are either a bit close to the mark, a rant or in some cases well thought out. Yes I do have a dog well one and a half as now our new family addition of 10 weeks Basil the Border Terrier has arrived! and so I like to think I have a very good ethos of picking their business up. I am also paranoid about them getting out and if they seem to make a nuisance of themselves - not only would I be totally embarrassed I do not want to be known as the or that lady who can't control her dogs or her kids.
Ok I have to put my hand up twice Poppy the BT has followed me out of the house unbeknown to me and it's not until about 30 mins later I have asked "has anyone seen Poppydog?" as I frantically turn the house upside down that I hear a single bark at the front door and there she is patiently waiting for me. I would just die if someone saw her and whipped her away as she was is my first baby. Yes I do have 2 cats and have had 6 in total but the 2 I have now - one is completely in charge of us all and the other one is a neurotic torty - if you have one - you know what I am talking about.
But back to the Dog Poo! there are two types of people in the world those that care and those that don't and those that don't will never change and maybe I do agree with the person who wrote in our magazine that they shouldn't be allowed to keep dogs but how do you make them pick up ? I welcome all suggestions and then I can write a constructive article for my Village magazine.
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